How to ask really good questions

My father visited us this Christmas; I hadn’t seen him for over a year and was very keen to catch up. Particularly as his life has been extremely tumultuous over the last 12 months. Relationships, moving to France, journeys, people – his life is very complex and I was dying to find out everything. You simply can’t extract these things on Facebook or even on Skype, so I thought a wholesome meal and a glass or two of a good red wine would loosen his tongue. Boy was I in…

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The power of self awareness questions when coaching

Self awareness questions were the first coaching technique I learnt when being trained to coach in 1993. I had no idea what Frank was going on about. Frank was our trainer, by the way. How on earth could you teach people or coach people things through self awareness questions. Nonsense, I thought. I guess I struggled at the time to distinguish the two - coach and train. But last Sunday I had to make self awareness coaching work otherwise I was doomed.  Destined to the ranks of a third rate…

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